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72

72 As of today, 11/30/17, this is how many families The Haven Network has cared for this year in Rockford and the surrounding communities. 72. Seeing this number written….72….is a lot different than seeing each baby’s name individually written on cards. And you know what, some of those baby’s are twins. So the actual number of babies The Haven cared for so far this year is 76. 76 babies in Rockford and the surrounding communities that are gone too soon.…

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Dear Family and Friends:

Festive celebrations and traditions surrounding the upcoming holiday season can be all that more emotional and overwhelming to bereaved parents. The pain, grief, and sadness they are feeling over the death of their child can be amplified by the holidays, no matter how long or how recent their loss has been. Be understanding. Be gentle. Be the grace they need as they navigate the upcoming holidays. Be their safe place and their comfort. Let them be sad and be there…

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Grief and the Holidays

Grieving the death of your baby during the holidays can be challenging. The thought of being surrounded by happy friends and family celebrating the holidays, feeling sad amongst a group of people who just want you to be happy, wanting to stay home in your comfy clothes instead of dressing up, braving the cold and going elsewhere to celebrate, bracing yourself for when a well-intentioned person says the wrong thing….all that and more can just add to the challenge of…

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Holiday Candle Ritual

This ritual is designed to remember your sweet baby during the holidays, or really, any time of the year. You are welcome to personalize it and/or change it to suit you and your families wishes. To begin, place 5 candles in a circle and as you light each candle, read aloud these statements: As we light these five candles in your honor, we light one for our grief, one for our courage, one for our memories, one for our love,…

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Funeral/Memorial Service Planning: Hymns

Hymns A Time Will Come for Singing by Dan Schutte: https://youtu.be/fRYAIceIlXs Abide With Me: https://youtu.be/deJDkU6qiGE All I Ask of You: https://youtu.be/K9i9yAjt86Y Amazing Grace Asleep in Jesus Ashes Ave Maria Before the Sun Burned Bright Be Consoled, I Am Near Be Not Afraid Be Still My Soul Be Thou My Vision Be With Me Blest Be the Lord Blest We Are By Name I Have Called You Child of Wonder Children of the Heavenly Father Christ Be Our Light Come to…

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Children Grieve Too

Having to explain the concept of death to a child, no matter what age, is a daunting task for a parent. It is especially heart-breaking to have to explain to them that their little baby brother or sister has passed away. Not only are parents grieving the death of their baby, they have to help and watch their other children grieve the death of their sibling. In their grief, parents have one of life’s most difficult “teachable moments” in that…

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Whirlwind

Those of us who are enduring the death of our beloved baby are all too familiar with the myriad of emotions that follow: sadness, guilt, depression, frustration, anger and denial, to name only a few. These emotions rarely are felt one at a time and instead are a constant and overwhelming whirlwind of feelings. Anger is simply the outward expression of hurt, fear, and frustration. Some days the anger can be so overwhelming, so consuming and intense it threatens to…

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Ways To Help Children Through Loss

Young children working through a loss may respond very differently than adults. Understanding their point of view is important as abstract concepts, like death, are challenging for children to understand. Here are some simple ways you can help children process their loss and feelings: *Ask children what they think death is. Relate it to something they are familiar with *Stick to daily routines as much as possible. Children need to feel secure in their homes and routine helps *Let them…

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Special Song

We are blessed to have so many talented volunteers for The Haven Network! They generously donate their time and their skills to benefit the families that we serve and The Haven Network itself. Sherry Camp is one such volunteer who has been with The Haven for awhile. Not only does she volunteer her time as a photographer, she is also a singer and songwriter. She has written this song and we are honored to be able to share it with…

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Journaling Prompts

Grief journaling gives parents the freedom to express their deepest thoughts, feelings, and emotions about the loss of their baby in a safe place. Sharing your thoughts and emotions about the death of your baby provides an opportunity for you look inward and gain a better understanding of yourself and how you are coping with the loss of your child. Telling the story of your loss may help to calm your emotions. *Find writing materials that appeal to you: notebook,…

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